The Writer’s Curse

He took another sip from his glass; the warm, brown liquid hitting the back of his throat.

A million thoughts flooding his mind; the never-ending battle with the blank page.

The deadline looming over his head; drawing ever closer.

The washing piled up in the corner; waiting to be thrown in the machine.

The dishes are starting to grow mold; sitting on the sink for the second consecutive week.

The house in perpetual ruin; reminiscent of the neglect of weeks past.

His phone getting flooded with messages; his dwindling social life clinging for dear life.

But the deadline is looming; yet the words refuse to flow.

FUCKING TALK!!

People are always so afraid of bringing up issues in their relationships out of fear that they’ll ‘rock the boat’, or because they’re so afraid of what the response might be.

They then brush away their problems in a hope that they’ll magically sort themselves out.

Well, guess what?

THEY WON’T!!!

Whether you’ve just started dating someone or you’ve been with them for years, you have to learn to EXPRESS YOURSELF!

Hoping and waiting for someone to read your mind is fucking stupid.

Hi! I’m a girl on Tinder!

My profile has a bunch of pictures of me and my friends so you won’t know which one is me.

I like headshots, so they help you guess if I have legs.

My interest are really interesting things like food – I bet you never had that before!

It’s important I let you know that i “like my friends”… but of course, if i didn’t like them, they would not be my friends.

I did a yoga pose once and took a photo for proof.

I also went to an exotic location and casually looked at the floor like I lost something and touched my hair, and also took a photo.

I liked you for your picture of that puppy.

If i super liked you, it was probably by mistake.

I dont know what im looking for, but i know what i dont want “noooooo fuckkkk booyysss”.

The best thing about being a nerd is that sometimes you get to say phrases like you would only hear in a movie… except for real.And you mean them.

I just said this to someone.

“If you are ever down in Mandurah with an army… let me know.

EMOTION CREATES MOTION

If you ever feel like you’re not doing what you want to do, both in life and love…

chances are you don’t have enough emotion involved…

or there’s more emotion that is stopping you.

Leverage your relationships.

If you are a friend, then start from there.

No need to worry about being in the friend zone, just work from there.

It’s better than starting from scratch.

Jealousy

Don’t worry about other women/men in their life…

focus on just being as authentic as you can.

The moment you start playing the jealousy game…

you instantly lose.

One of the first questions I always ask people, is “what is your desire?”

Is it your desire for anything, a conversation, or something deeper like love.

Sometimes the desire is just to give, but it’s still a desire and that’s worth remembering.

We need a sense of direction and desires gives us that.

DISSATISFIED WITH YOUR DATING RESULTS???

In a conversation this morning, I was discussing why a female was struggling with dating.

She told me “Men aren’t into larger women.”

She stated she had lost 60 lb, but that with no success still, she had given up, and even shared, “Maybe I’m too picky.”

When I began asking questions, this stance quickly fell apart and morphed into, “Well I’m shy. My last relationship was traumatic. I’m scared to get out there.”

What YOU can learn from this, is that in order to change the results in your life, you FIRST need to identify the cause.

If you BS yourself, you’re not going to get anywhere, because you’re making up false reasons for your results.

What you need to do to obtain improvements in your results, is first be honest with yourself about how you got here.

THEN things can begin down the path of change towards better results.

Observation from years working with clients:

A totally “hopeless” feeling about your love life can be turned around within a SINGLE DAY by meeting just one great person.

That’s why keeping your sense of optimism is so important.