Something people don’t know about me is that I’m an ENTP personality type.
It’s maybe 2% of the population.
But as an ENTP… I HATE small talk.
I’m not good at it.
I hate it.
Do NOT try to chit chat with me!!
This disdain for ordinary, average, and safe small talk is an advantage I have, and I would encourage others to incorporate into (some) interactions.
While small talk has its place, and though I wish I could not be disgusted by it and practice it, by avoiding it, I and others can develop more meaningful connections, and develop interest and romantic attraction much faster.
Look at your conversations and test this recommendation.
Remember, I do TWO things.
1. I never have conversations that don’t interest me.
2. I avoid the small talk conversations and thus stand out from the pack. This DOES mean taking the lead in directing the topics of conversation.