Arbitrary number of dates, time, activities, whatever the case… I believe anyone using such guideposts probably needs them, to an extent.
But these guidelines followed are ALWAYS going to be generic.
People get caught up in making sure a certain path is taken to ensure dating success, but you know what??
It doesn’t work that way.
Sometimes there IS “love at first sight.”
Or the paths crossing of soulmates, maybe adversity is required before a connection.
And sometimes a lengthy process is required to develop a strong connection.
IT DEPENDS.
(And sometimes it doesn’t work out no matter what you do right!)
This would be easier to understand and practice if we stopped thinking of dating, and even Life, from the perspectives of “Good vs. Bad.”
It’s not like that, it’s just “what is.”
If you connected quick, fine.
If your connection takes 90 days before sex, fine.
But my counsel would that the only “bad” is to try to control the outcome so much with “X” amounts of dates, time, etc…
I believe the best part of relationships is their spontaneity and the organic growth.
Certainly, I understand employing “better” dating practices (duh, I teach Game), but if you reach and understand the highest levels of what I teach…you will get to the point where “the rules don’t matter.”
I wish everyone could experience this level in dating, or anything in their life, because it’s life changing to see your circumstances…and not worry about the “How?”
Guidelines have their place, yes.
But most of the time, they only identify individuals who NEED guidance.
And if someone preaches that THEIR way is the right, or only way… There is a flaw in both the individual and their strategy.
I believe your path is more just a way that “is,” and that whatever path you are taking in every moment, that’s what “is.”
You just ride it out, like a virtual game of life where you never start over, but just keep going.
Where is up to you.
And guys consider, waiting 90 days like Steve Harvey speaks about doesn’t result in success.
You’re still playing a game where you are using manipulation tactics.
Personally, I’ve found women attempting these manipulations with me to be unattractive because it removed the element of spontaneity, of “going with the flow,” and allowing organic growth and expression.
It feels like a false restriction.
I would also question just how different these women are acting from men who use tactics of “I win and YOU lose” to get sex.
Ladies, you frown upon men who use NLP (linguistic tactics) to seduce women, and you also berate men for using “negs” to achieve the upper hand.
Just how different is it to CONSCIOUSLY barter your sex/time/affection??
So…I’m not exactly a fan of these “make them wait or do this” guidelines.
How about you make YOURSELF better instead of making it worse for someone else?
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